What is The Ref about?
A cat burglar is forced to take a bickering, dysfunctional family hostage on Christmas Eve.
Does it have a happy ending? (spoiler-safe)
Bittersweet. It earns its ending, but not everyone gets what they want.
A cat burglar's Christmas Eve hostage situation becomes a darkly-comic battle of wits with a bickering family.
Pulpy, with dark satire. A full-attention watch at a brisk pace. Emotionally it is heavy.
Streaming on Prime Video and Hoopla (free).
The Ref parents guide
Some innuendo or implied sex and some violence, about what an R should carry.
- Scare
- Mildly scary
- A few tense or eerie moments.
- Jump scares
- None noted
- Gore
- No gore
- Violence
- Some violence
- Some fighting or peril.
- Sex and nudity
- Mild
- Mild means innuendo, or sex implied off screen, with no nudity.
- Language
- Strong
- Frequent strong profanity or slurs.
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Three questions
- Is The Ref scary?
- Only a little. The Ref has a few tense moments, nothing that follows you to bed.
- How gory is The Ref?
- No gore and some violence. Squeamish viewers are fine here.
- What is The Ref rated, and is it OK for kids?
- Frequent strong language. The R is earned, so not for kids.
Cast and crew
Directed byTed Demme
StarringDenis Leary, Judy Davis, Kevin Spacey, Glynis Johns, Robert J. Steinmiller Jr., Raymond J. Barry
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The Ref is on our Christmas and Crime on Hoopla lists.
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